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The Worst Mistakes You Can Make on a First Date

Published by How To Get Girls | January 18th 2010 | Views:

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Mastering the art of how to get girls goes further than understanding the right approaches, opening lines and conversation tools. You will also have to know how to carry out the first date -- although this won't be a "date" in the customary sense, exactly.

You see, when the majority guys take a girl out, they adhere to a standard, predictable custom: bring her to dinner or the movies, spend a bunch of money on her, and behave like a respectful, innocuous "nice guy" who is attempting to earn her approval.

It's no wonder that these hapless guys commonly wind up going home alone at the end of the night. In many cases, the girl never winds up agreeing to go out with the guy again.

Why is it, then, that so many first dates end in frustration? Usually, it's because the guy is not able to push her "attraction buttons" and get her interested in him in a way that goes beyond "just being friends".

With this in mind, here are three tips to heighten your chances of success on the first date:

* Keep it low-cost. Don't be the average guy, who thinks he needs to pay out money on a fancy restaurant in order to make a positive impression. This puts you in the wrong position. Maintain the attitude that this is her chance to sell herself to YOU, not the other way around.

Meet her for coffee (not at a Starbucks -- find a unique, cozy coffee spot for dates). Or, meet her for drinks. Skip the places that everyone knows, and figsuddenly show up -- you just never know. You should know an alternate location ready to bring her to if necessary; the point is, you are always ready for any scenario.

* Plan on keeping the date brief. For a first meeting, 1-2 hours is usually perfect. Maintain the attitude that if she is not up to YOUR standards, you'll want to have an exit strategy. (I don't suggest planning an all-day activity with a girl until you're confident you want to spend this much time with her.)

If taking her home with you tonight isn't a possibility (or if it's a daytime date), then it's best to end the date on a high point and show her that YOUR time is limited.

Basically, you want to be the one who decides how the date goes, and when it ends. You can say to her, "Well, this has been so much fun, but I've got a big day tomorrow...so we'll need to hang out again soon." You don't want to extend the date to the point where she is looking at her watch and trying to figure out a gracious way to make her exit.

End the date on a high point, before the energy level starts to dwindle, and plan on sealing the deal the next time you hang out with her. (As the biggest entertainers in show business say, you should always "leave them wanting more.)

* Show up on time. Don't try to be "fashionably late." (This is something women do, not men.) Know how to get to the date location, and get there a few minutes early so that you are totally prepared and choose a good place to sit.

* It is better to be a bit overdressed than underdressed. You can bet she's going to for this date, and she'll feel awkward if you show up looking like you just rolled out of bed -- or came from the beach.

* You want to prompt her to do most of the talking. This means asking cool, strategic questions that encourage her to share quirky details about herself -- such as her interests, goals and passions. Don't try to tell her your complete life story in the first hour. Maintain a sense of mystery and "leave her wanting more."

The bottom line is, you want to keep the "spotlight" on her. The more details she shares with you, and the more you seem to appreciate what she is saying, the more it feels to her like a sense of "chemistry" is growing.

(But of course, you're not just going to sit there and agree with absolutely everything she talks about. You should also use our "teases" and "push-pull" tactics to demonstrate that you're a playful, confident guy who isn't impressed easily -- no matter how beautiful this girl may be.)

These techniques elevate you beyond the average lovestruck guy, who approaches every first date as if he's auditioning for the role of her boyfriend.

This same advice applies to when you're learning how to meet girls. During that very first conversation when you introduce yourself, it's even more important to maintain a sense of mystery and pose compelling questions for HER to answer.

Bear in mind, mastering the art of how to get girls is a process. And it's one that any guy can master if he's armed with the right skills and tactics.


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